Tuesday, May 24, 2005

How gentle is a gentleman


Special Parking Lot for Ladies-Korea
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Hi, yesterday after the Bible camp (will post this later, waiting for pictures) I went out with my friends Alfon, Widiya, Mentol and Felix. During dinner we came across a very interesting topic. Its about how gentle a man should be to be a gentleman. Of course that is a very ambiguous question, its like asking how good a person should be. Well, of course there are some ground rules right about gentleness in a man. And i wanna hear also your opinion also on how a man should behave when there is ladies around. In this case we are talking about gentleman in general not in a relationship.

Lets just say in a dining place, in a road, during walking or during eating. How a man should behave or taken care of the ladies.
Let me give you some ideas:
- A man should open the door when entering a room with a lady
- A man should help lady carries heavy things
- A man should walk on the traffic side when walking with a lady
- etc

If you wanna add other things please do, and girls you also allow to comment on how a guy should do. Another thing, in to what extend should a guy be gentle. Take for instance, if a guy going out with his girlfriend and some of ladies friend. Should he only be gentle to his Girlfriend or to all the ladies? What do you think?

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hahaha... This is a very difficult question to be answered. How gentleman hor? Yg biasa2 tuh open the door, bawa barang2 berat, apalagi ya? Itu lah yg normal2 aja. Hmm, let's see what other thinks. Hehehe...

Anonymous said...

i know i know:
1. Kalo cewe pulang sendirian, tawarin buat anterin pulang. Cewe bakal say no, but if you ask three times, they might say yes... Kalo emang ga niat anterin pulang, at least basa basi =P
2. Kalo emang cewenya kekeh ga mo dianterin, tanyain suruh sms, jadi loe tau dia pulang safely (gentle right? :P)

tar gua tambahin lagi kalo kepikir :P

Anonymous said...

Just a question, apa hubungannya blog ini ama pics yg elo pasang lin? Emang parking di Korea kenapa ya???

Parlin said...

wahhh iya sen...tapi kayaknya kl gk niat mendingan jangan basa basi d. nanti kl ce nya mau gimana..hehehehe...

buat eric, gimana sih ric,liat gambarnya donk. Itu ada parkir khusus buat cewek...hehehhe

Agustina Sadikin said...

hahahah hmm criteria gentleman yg disebutin ituh bener semua sich. ^_^
asen : hehehe iyach sen klo cuman basa basi mah mending kg usah nawarin dech :).

hihih lucu yach klo cowo2x mo belajar jadi gentleman.

btw klo misalnya lagi jalan ama gfnya trus ada ce lain juga.. hmm mungkin diprioritaskan buat gfnya kali yach...

Anonymous said...

i don't think any ladies nowadays really appreciate when men open the door for a lady - any lady...but you don't get it these days ..and when you do it's like wow sexy..

Anonymous said...

Hohoho... Kl basa basi dan cenya mau, berarti anterin aja langsung. Hehehe... Kan bisa sekalian? Ya ngak Sen??? =P

Parlin said...

tapi kayaknya co (termasuk gue..hehehehe..)emang perlu belajar yang kayak gini2x, kl orang bule udah biasa kl. Orang asia yg masih kurang...

ntar basa basi jadi basi lu...hahahhaha..

Anonymous said...

Hahaha... Bule biasa meh? Emang orang bule lebih gentleman drpd orang asia? Ah yang bener loe??? Masa seh? Ngak yakin gue. Hehehe...

Hendrik Christian said...

wah, panjang neh kalo mo ditulis disini .... banyak seh, hasil discussion ama ruby 4.5 jem on the phone few weeks back, hehehe... tapi males nulis ....

yg ud ditulis, yach for a start lah.
gua tambahin 1: kalo mo keluar dari lift, kasih yg cw keluar dulu. and vice versa, kalo mo masuk, kasih masuk duluan.

asen: kalo ga niat anterin, yach ga perlu lah. cw juga ga bakalan appreciate kalo cowo itu pura2. they'll know ... somehow..
over the weekend deh, kalo inget, and niat ngetik panjang2, gua tulis disini :D

Hendrik Christian said...

baru kepikiran s'thing: tujuannya mo jadi gentleman tuh apa? kalo demi impress cw yg lagi loe kejar ... gua bilang very pathetic... karena selagi pdkt, loe bisa bela2in anterin, bukain pintu, bawain barang, and so on, tapi begitu ud jadian, kalo ud engga, pasti ud engga do all those lagi. kalo itu gua bilang lagi JaIm, bukan lagi being gentleman. mendingan you show your true colors, kalo emang gentleman, ya ud, kalo emang kaga gentleman, yach ga usah dipaksa2, pura2 gentleman (spt basa basi :p). cw tuh appreciate honesty and true colors, drpd dia kira cowo dia itu baik banget, eh begitu jadian, langsung berubah, tambah gawat lagi. be yourself lah. emang kalo lagi pdkt, normal kalo cowo itu tambah baik, tapi there's a thin line between good and being true. susah ngejelasinnya ah...

for me, being gentleman should be what we are, and if some girl notice it, it's the reward. kalo engga, so be it. you only need ONE girl to notice and love you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be.

doh, jadi panjang juga dah -_-!

Parlin said...

wahhh analysis yang sangat bagus dari cimit, dan gue totally agree banget. kl gentleman tujuannya buat pdkt atau ari perhatian mah, itu mah sami mawon...itu actor bukan gentleman...hehehe..
buat eric: kl yang dari gue liat sih gitu ric, orang bule lebih gentleman dan lebih ramah.

Anonymous said...

Hahaha... Iya ya??? Jarang ketemu bule seh gue. Kl elo kan sering tuh lin.
Cimit: Cuman butuh one woman to notice it ya? But for one woman to notice itu loh yang susah. Hahaha...

But gua setuju juga seh, just be ourselves lah ya. Kalo emang bawel ya bawel aja, kl emang ancur ya ancur aja. Hehehe... Tapi kl gua, emang dasarnya baik, keren, imut gitu loh, jadi gimana dong? Gua ngak boong2an loh =P Jk jk jk...

Parlin said...

hahahhahaha...geli banget lu ric. Tapi gue rasa Gentleman itu bukan character, tapi lebih ke kebiasaan yang bisa dipelajarin. itu lebih ke arah courtesy, dalam hal ini courtesy kita sebagai co kepada ce...hehhehehe...uhuiiiiiiii

Anonymous said...

hehe.. ga boleh buka kartu di sini ah... ada dong caranya basa basi tanpa ketauan... what do you know what's in my mind =P

Anonymous said...

bear: yup betul ric.. kalo basa basinya ditanggepin ya anterin aja loh... sami sawon amet... =P

Hendrik Christian said...

parlin: bukan analysis gua seh, tapi sharing dari ruby :D, terus yach gua share disini aje for the wisdom of everyone, *apa coba*
orang bule ga tau yach, tapi again pengakuan dari ruby (again), cowo singaporean generally lebih gentleman bandingin cowo indo. which to certain extent, i agree. thanks to their NS sptnya yach.

bear: bener dut, kalo bawel bawel aje, kalo ancur ancur aje, toh cw juga banyak yg demen yg bawel and ancur, ya ga? hehehe...
elu yach dut? baik, keren, imut, terus dikurung, depannya pasang NOT :p

asen: wah, kalo asen mah jago basa basi sptnya :p well, nganterin lili kemaren itu a good start kok sen :p

Anonymous said...

Cimit: Yoi dong Mit. Kan beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. =P
I can't help it if girls like me so much, right? Hahaha... Jk jk jk... Ntar gua di timpuk sekampung lagi. =P

Parlin said...

huhahahaha...ric, i think i knew what am i going to give you for christmas..."A mirror"...Hahahahha...:P

Hendrik Christian said...

parlin: kita patungan deh beliin kaca yg gueeeeeedeeeeeeeeeeee buat ndut ... :p

Parlin said...

thats gonna be a huge mirror for ndutz...huahahhaha...

Anonymous said...

Hahaha... Lumayan lah dapet mirror. Ngak punya mirror yg gede neh di rumah. Hehehe... Mirror mahal tuh btw. =P

Hendrik Christian said...

pinjem credit card-nya eko ajah ntar buat beli kaca-nya, ya dut ya? hehehehe....

Anonymous said...

Hahaha... Boleh aja. Asal Eko yang bayar =P

Hendrik Christian said...

eits, eko ga ada hubungan dgn ini, jgn dibawa2 ... gua minjem credit card-nya doank :p